We have emphasized that romance is a needed commodity in images today, but love means far more than just the feelings expressed in romantic affection, as important as they are. Dr. Karl -Menninger, a great Christian psychiatrist, expressed it this way: "We not fall into love; rather we grow into love." Love in marriage matures as a couple applies the principle of love in everyday life. Genuine love, then, goes beyond the feelings of love and becomes a principle that must be put into action. We must not only expect to be treated with love and consideration, but we must also act with love and consideration.
Yet it is very difficult for most of us to consistently express our love y in and day out. Few of us feel like being tender, thoughtful, considerate, and helpful every day of our lives, because our feelings are easily altered by moods, foods eaten, the weather, illness, the reaction our mates toward us, and a host of other variables. Since feelings are stable, those who contend that love is primarily a feeling will make stable lovers. They will proceed through life indulging in what feels good and pursuing "that old feeling" immortalized in song.
Of course feelings constitute a component of love. Love wouldn't very interesting or much fun it we didn't have "that feeling." seed, the first attraction between individuals rest primarily on feels, and a love relationship will hardly ensue unless love feelings surface.
However, in marriage some of the early feelings of young love dwindle. No one can constantly live at an emotionally feverish high. When these first feelings diminish, moments will come when emotional satisfaction in the relationship seems relatively low. Negative slings may poison the atmosphere. At these times we must exercise principle of acting love. With the passing of time and by exercising principles of love, young love can mature into a more genuine love it binds hearts and lives together—counteracting negative feelings.
Yet it is very difficult for most of us to consistently express our love y in and day out. Few of us feel like being tender, thoughtful, considerate, and helpful every day of our lives, because our feelings are easily altered by moods, foods eaten, the weather, illness, the reaction our mates toward us, and a host of other variables. Since feelings are stable, those who contend that love is primarily a feeling will make stable lovers. They will proceed through life indulging in what feels good and pursuing "that old feeling" immortalized in song.
Of course feelings constitute a component of love. Love wouldn't very interesting or much fun it we didn't have "that feeling." seed, the first attraction between individuals rest primarily on feels, and a love relationship will hardly ensue unless love feelings surface.
However, in marriage some of the early feelings of young love dwindle. No one can constantly live at an emotionally feverish high. When these first feelings diminish, moments will come when emotional satisfaction in the relationship seems relatively low. Negative slings may poison the atmosphere. At these times we must exercise principle of acting love. With the passing of time and by exercising principles of love, young love can mature into a more genuine love it binds hearts and lives together—counteracting negative feelings.
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